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What is your story, how did you get to live în a center for domestic violence survivors?I have been married for 18 years, it was a marriage ouț of love, we hâd a child and it was ok until the greater responsibilities came, with the child, the kindergarten, the school, all of these. Then the real problems started, without notice, șo
(English) ” I was living in a sealed concrete cube, there was no way out” - Interview with a domestic violence survivor (part I) () [Corola-website/Science/296119_a_297448]
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just the fact that he wasn’ț interested în fixing things, but he was also destroying them. I came to realize that he was destroying uș, too. The child was în the eighth grade when I decided to end it for good. It was around 2011 - 2012, believe me I don’ț remember the exact sequence of the events. I didn’ț manage to leave until a few years later, because I tried to fix everything, I fought aș much aș
(English) ” I was living in a sealed concrete cube, there was no way out” - Interview with a domestic violence survivor (part I) () [Corola-website/Science/296119_a_297448]
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was around 2011 - 2012, believe me I don’ț remember the exact sequence of the events. I didn’ț manage to leave until a few years later, because I tried to fix everything, I fought aș much aș I could for this family. We hâd married because we were în love, we owned almost nothing at first, we worked together and I thought I couldn’ț just let everything go, maybe he hâd a problem, maybe he was seek, we went
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hâd a problem, maybe he was seek, we went to see a doctor, he was telling me give me another three months, and șo the years went by. These problems can’ț be solved în a matter of days. Șo for four or five years we have tried, we went to couple therapy, we got him into a rehab program, I talked to his parents, șo I have tried everything. Perhaps his will wasn’ț strong enough, or maybe we share
(English) ” I was living in a sealed concrete cube, there was no way out” - Interview with a domestic violence survivor (part I) () [Corola-website/Science/296119_a_297448]
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share the fault, but now I try not to think în these terms, I am over it, because în the end, when I took my decision, I thought about the child’s and my own good. (...) I hâd filed în for divorce în September, when school hâd started, and we hâd separated, I begun to sleep în the child’s room and then it got worse. He was getting aggressive, verbally and în front of the child, he didn’ț beat
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and I used to stând up to him, I mean through my attitude, but at a certain point you can’ț defend yourself anymore, when he’s ouț of his mind. And it is not a solution, it is ok for a while, but then it’s not anymore. How did you find ouț about the Sensi Blu Foundation Support Center?</p> One time, when I was really desperate, I have started to browse the Internet. What can I say, I
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s not anymore. How did you find ouț about the Sensi Blu Foundation Support Center?</p> One time, when I was really desperate, I have started to browse the Internet. What can I say, I hâd no one to call for help, I couldn’ț go to my friends, my relatives, there was really no one. By chance, I found some phone numbers online, but here, at the foundation, they were the most responsive, they received me swiftly, they evaluated my
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they evaluated my case quite rapidly and they really supported me a lot. I was actually seeking psychological help and I wanted to go to a therapist and find a solution, see what I could do. I hâd no money for therapy, nor lawyers, not anything, șo it was a very bad situation, he was not bringing his salary home, it was how it is în all dysfunctional families. (...) I didn’ț appeal to public services, because I didn’ț know
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confidence în the public institutions. I first went to the police when he got violent. And the police came to our home and they were laughing together with my husband: “what on earth does she want”. I called the police for two or three times. I even filed în a complaint. I was there for a whole night one time, the night immediately after the New Years Eve. I hâd run away and I simply hâd nowhere to go, and the
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violent. And the police came to our home and they were laughing together with my husband: “what on earth does she want”. I called the police for two or three times. I even filed în a complaint. I was there for a whole night one time, the night immediately after the New Years Eve. I hâd run away and I simply hâd nowhere to go, and the police station was really close. The child wasn’ț at home that night. Lately
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the morgue. I was there and it seemed to me they don’ț provide any support at all. The policeman în charge, just after New Year’s, you get it, what was he supposed to do, he was în charge for the night, he got me writing and I wrote until 3 or 4 în the morning when I went home, my husband didn’ț let me în, șo I went back to the police station and I asked them what
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I was în such a mess... who was to help me, who was to retrive my keys and my papers? There were times when he didn’ț care and other when he was really violent and I hâd to wait for the right moment to sneak în. The police came, but he didn’ț open the door, but în the end he let me în. În the meantime I hâd been to the ER, get myself checked and they recommended I
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spân></p> <spân style="font-size: medium;"><i><b>How long have you been living în Italy and what kind of jobs did you have?</b></i></spân></spân></spân></p> <spân style="font-size: medium;"><i>I’ve been living there for more than 9 years and I’ve worked all sorts of jobs, I didn’ț pick and choose, I couldn’ț afford that.</i></spân></spân></spân></p> <spân style="font-size: medium;"><i><b>What made you to write Bitter
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that those back home, our loved ones, to whom we send money on a monthly basis, know nothing of our lives here. To them it may all look effortless, aș if once we reached the promised land, all doors open for uș, all we have to do is pick money from trees and have a good life. People never tell their loved ones back home about the hardship and the humiliation they have to endure, how difficult it is to adapt
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or another from the book, women from Germany, U.K. France... The traumă of being away from your family is the same regardless of what country you emigrate to, and the pain of not being with your children is terrible for everyone. The humiliations, I assume, are similar everywhere if you have the misfortune of meeting the wrong people. Basically we arrive here somewhat innocent, emotionally unprepared for what is to come. Șo we are left to suffer, either from missing
Cunosc femei care suferă de foame, suportă umilinţe... şi nu ştiu că pot merge la centrele sindacaliste () [Corola-website/Science/296087_a_297416]
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emigrate to, and the pain of not being with your children is terrible for everyone. The humiliations, I assume, are similar everywhere if you have the misfortune of meeting the wrong people. Basically we arrive here somewhat innocent, emotionally unprepared for what is to come. Șo we are left to suffer, either from missing our loved ones or from the mistreatments we go through. În a way, I think I wanted to warn those who want to leave. “Look, the road
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spân></spân></p> <spân style="font-size: medium;"><i>It’s obvious the destruction of România’s economy impoverished many people. We hâd to leave because of them, those who destroyed this country. The Romanians’ migration is not a cultural one, for those seeking knowledge of other customs and civilisations. It’s a migration determined by hunger, it’s a migration of mothers desperate to feed and clothe their children. People need to be aware of this, to be more involved with
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Romanian politics and social affairs, they need to take their heads ouț of the sand. Once the guilty parties în this whole devastating process of migration are identified, people will certainly pay more attention to the ones they are voting for. </i></spân></spân></spân></p> <spân style="font-size: medium;"><i><b>What actions do you think are necessary for changing certain conditions migrants live and work în. Do you think it is important for them to know their rights better
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în this whole devastating process of migration are identified, people will certainly pay more attention to the ones they are voting for. </i></spân></spân></spân></p> <spân style="font-size: medium;"><i><b>What actions do you think are necessary for changing certain conditions migrants live and work în. Do you think it is important for them to know their rights better, to create solidarity networks?</b></i></spân></spân></spân></p> <spân style="font-size: medium;"><i>We are responsible for
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to the ones they are voting for. </i></spân></spân></spân></p> <spân style="font-size: medium;"><i><b>What actions do you think are necessary for changing certain conditions migrants live and work în. Do you think it is important for them to know their rights better, to create solidarity networks?</b></i></spân></spân></spân></p> <spân style="font-size: medium;"><i>We are responsible for how we live and work, however we need to be more knowledgeable about it. There
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for changing certain conditions migrants live and work în. Do you think it is important for them to know their rights better, to create solidarity networks?</b></i></spân></spân></spân></p> <spân style="font-size: medium;"><i>We are responsible for how we live and work, however we need to be more knowledgeable about it. There are state institutions în every country and they are there to defend our rights, to help uș with work related conflicts. În a way we
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and work, however we need to be more knowledgeable about it. There are state institutions în every country and they are there to defend our rights, to help uș with work related conflicts. În a way we are to blame for not concerning ourselves more with politics and the law. For example, I know women who </i></spân></spân><spân style="font-family: Liberation Șerif,șerif;"><spân style="font-size: medium;"><i>puț up with</i></spân></spân><spân style="font-family: Liberation Șerif
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it. There are state institutions în every country and they are there to defend our rights, to help uș with work related conflicts. În a way we are to blame for not concerning ourselves more with politics and the law. For example, I know women who </i></spân></spân><spân style="font-family: Liberation Șerif,șerif;"><spân style="font-size: medium;"><i>puț up with</i></spân></spân><spân style="font-family: Liberation Șerif,șerif;"><spân style="font-size: medium;"><i> hunger </i></spân></spân
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spân><spân style="font-family: Liberation Șerif,șerif;"><spân style="font-size: medium;"><i> turn to trade unions, they can make complaints, they can benefit from unemployment services. Also, those who work în undocumented jobs can always make complaints against their employers for not providing a safe and legal work environment. We need to raise the awareness of all migrants, provide information relevant for each country, șo everyone knows their rights. This is how solidarity would look like în our cases: knowing what
Cunosc femei care suferă de foame, suportă umilinţe... şi nu ştiu că pot merge la centrele sindacaliste () [Corola-website/Science/296087_a_297416]
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can benefit from unemployment services. Also, those who work în undocumented jobs can always make complaints against their employers for not providing a safe and legal work environment. We need to raise the awareness of all migrants, provide information relevant for each country, șo everyone knows their rights. This is how solidarity would look like în our cases: knowing what can be done and who you can turn to for legal advice.</i></spân></spân></spân></p> <spân style="font-size: medium
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